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From the doctrine of Christ/ Rel200 packet and Proclamation	From personality theories and Psychology in general (Quotes taken from Hergenhahn and Olsen's "An Introduction to Theories of Personality"1 unless otherwise stated.)
	ALFRED ADLER
“Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children… In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.” (Family A Proclamation to the World) “Every marriage is tested repeatedly by three kinds of wolves… the third wolf is excessive individualism.” (Bruce C. Hafen’s “Covenant Marriage”)	For Love and marriage to succeed requires these three ideas: Preparation of involving two people, consciousness of equal worth, and capacity for devotion. (Social Interest)
We declare that God’s commandment for his children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. (Family Proclamation)	"Human beings as products of this earth could subsists and develop in their relationship only by union with the community, by making both material and spatial provision for it, by sharing in its work, by industry, and by providing for propagation of the species" (social interest pg 43)
The family is ordained of God. marriage between man and woman is essential to his eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity If we return home alone to our Heavenly Father, we will be asked, “Where is the rest of the family?” This is why we teach that families are forever. The eternal nature of an individual becomes the eternal nature of the family.” (Elder Robert D. Hales, “The Eternal Family,” Ensign, November 1996)	"Monogamy, is undoubtedly the best active evolutionary adaptation…The structure of love demands in addition a decision final for eternity." (social interest pg 61)
“Contract companions each give 50 percent; covenant companions each give 100 percent.” (Bruce C. Hafen’s “Covenant Marriage”) “To the many of you who are here who dream of finding the right eternal partner, may I say that in my judgment the real essence of happiness in marriage lies not so much in romance as in an anxious concern for the comfort and well-being of one’s companion. Thinking of self alone and of the gratification of personal desires will build neither trust, love, nor happiness. Only when there is unselfishness will love, with its concomitant qualities, flourish and blossom. Marriage, in its truest sense, is a partnership of equals, with neither exercising dominion over the other but, rather, with each encouraging and assisting the other in whatever responsibilities and aspirations he or she might have.” (President Gordon B. Hinckley, August 1992, Ensign, p. 6; also “This I believe,” BYU Devotional, March 1, 1992)	On Marriage: "For the right solution of the problem of love, each of two persons has to forget his or her own self entirely and give complete devotion to the other; it is as though one life had to be formed of two human being." (social interest pg 60)
Wise parents teach their children to apply the healing, reconciling, and strengthening power of the Atonement within their family. Just as sin, mortal weaknesses, emotional hurt, and anger are conditions that separate God’s children from Him, these same conditions can separate family members from each other. Each family member has a responsibility to strive for family unity.  Children who learn to strive for unity at home will find it easier to do so outside the home. (Church Handbook 1.3.2) President George Q. Cannon (1827-1901) as he served as First Counselor in the First Presidency: ‘If any of us are imperfect, it is our duty to pray for the gift that will make us perfect…. No man ought to say, ‘Oh, I cannot help this; it is my nature.’ He is not justified in it, for the reason that God has promised to give strength to correct these things, and to give gifts that will eradicate them. If a man lack wisdom, it is his duty to ask God for wisdom. The same with everything else. That is the design of God concerning His Church.  He wants His Saints to be perfected in the truth. For this purpose he gives these gifts, and bestows them upon those who seek after them, in order that they may be a perfect people upon the face of the earth’ (Millennial Star, 23 Apr. 1894, 260 “We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.” “We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.” (The video of President Gordon B. Hinckley giving a talk to the General Relief Society meeting in Oct. 1995 is found at lds.org (start 25:10; end 26:00)	Adler's idea of social interest was the idea that to be healthy, we have to exhibit a desire for the attainment of perfection for all civilization. "In all human failure, in the waywardness of children, in neurosis and perversion, in fact in all nervous symptoms, we may read lack of proper degree of social feeling."
(“Our Identity and Destiny” Elder Tad Callister): But how is it possible that you and I, with all our faults and weaknesses and shortcomings, could ever become a god? Fortunately, a loving Heavenly Father has given us resources to lift us above our mortal restraints and propel us to divine heights. I mention but two such resources, both made possible because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, whose crowning aim is to assist us in our pursuit of godhood—so that we might be “at one”—not only with Him but also “at one” like Him. President George Q. Cannon spoke of man’s shortcomings and the divine solution. Recognizing the link between spiritual gifts and godhood, he fervently pleaded with the Saints to overcome each manifested weakness through the acquisition of a countermanding gift of strength known as the gift of the Spirit. He spoke as follows: If any of us are imperfect, it is our duty to pray for the gift that will make us perfect. . . . No man ought tosay, “Oh, I cannot help this; it is my nature.” He is not justified in it, for the reason that God has promised to give strength to correct these things, and to give gifts that will eradicate them. . . . He wants His Saints to be perfected in the truth. For this purpose He gives these gifts, and bestows them upon those who seek after them, in order that they may be a perfect people upon the face of the earth, notwithstanding their many weaknesses, because God has promised to give the gifts that are necessary for their perfection. What about those of us who feel weaknesses in our life? We can take renewed hope in the words of the Lord to Moroni: “For if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them” (Ether 12:27).	Adler is the father of the idea of "overcompensation" but when he named it, it wasn't a negative thing. He believed that we recognize our weaknesses and desire to strengthen them out of social interest.
Elder Wickman: “One of the great sophistries of our age, I think, is that merely because one has an inclination to do something, that therefore acting in accordance with that inclination is inevitable. That’s contrary to our very nature as the Lord has revealed to us. We do have the power to control our behaviour.”	In my opinion, Alfred Adler’s largest contribution to the field of psychology was his idea that we are made up of environment and genetics but it is our choice how those elements combine to make our personality
	VIKTOR FRANKL (Man’s Search for Meaning)
My young friends, there is a wide variety of beliefs in this world, and there is moral agency for all, but no one is entitled to act as if God is mute on these subjects or as if commandments only matter if there is public agreement over them. “Israel Israel God is Calling” Elder Holland Some seem to value God’s love because of their hope that His love is so great and so unconditional that it will mercifully excuse them from obeying His laws. In contrast, those who understand God’s plan for His children know that God’s laws are invariable, which is another great evidence of His love for His children. Mercy cannot rob justice,2 and those who obtain mercy are “they who have kept the covenant and observed the commandment” (D&C 54:6). (Elder Oak’s “Love and Law”)	"Thrownness" - the most important things are predetermined (system of right v wrong, etc.)
	LEO TOLSTOY (Walk in the Light: Stories by Leo Tolstoy, 1907)
President Thomas S. Monson (as quoted in Elder Hales’ “Christian Courage”): “Let us learn respect for others. … None of us lives alone – in our city, our nation, or our world.” If we return home alone to our Heavenly Father, we will be asked, “Where is the rest of the family?” This is why we teach that families are forever. The eternal nature of an individual becomes the eternal nature of the family.” (Elder Robert D. Hales, “The Eternal Family,” Ensign, November 1996)	"I knew before that God gave life to men and desires that they should live; now I understood more than that. I understood that God does not wish men to live apart, and therefore he does not reveal to them what each one needs for himself; be he wishes them to live united, and therefore reveals to each of them what is necessary for all."
	GEORGE KELLY
{{Educate your minds and your spirits, and never lose sight of the fact that you are a child of God with a divine destiny and capability of doing great and good and wonderful things. Don’t sell yourselves short. Don’t cheapen yourselves. You know who you are. Each of you knows that you are a child of God and that your Heavenly Father expects something great and noble and good of you.” (President Hinckley, Dedication of the Hinckley Building, BYU-Idaho, October 22, 2002)}}	"Ultimately a man sets the measure of his own freedom and his own bondage by the level at which he chooses to establish his convictions. The man who orders his life in terms of many special and inflexible convictions about temporary matters makes himself the victim of circumstances. Each little prior conviction that is not open to review is a hostage he gives to fortune; it determines whether the events of tomorrow will bring happiness or misery. The man whose prior convictions encompass a broad perspective, and are cast in terms of principles rather than rules, has a much better chance of discovering those alternatives which will lead eventually to his emancipation."
	EDITH WEISSKOPF-JOELSON
“All this is not to say that life in the covenant is free of challenge or that the obedient soul should be surprised if disappointments or even disasters interrupt his peace. If you feel that personal righteousness should preclude all loss and suffering, you might want to have a chat with Job. (Elder D. Todd Christofferson, “The Power of Covenants,” Ensign, May 2009)	"Our current mental-hygiene philosophy stresses the idea that people ought to be happy, that unhappiness is a symptom of maladjustment. Such a value system might be responsible for the fact that the burden of unavoidable unhappiness is increased by unhappiness about being unhappy."
	CARL JUNG
“The adversary has long cultivated this overemphasis on personal autonomy, and now he feverishly exploits it. Our deepest God-given instinct is to run to the arms of those who need us and sustain us. But he (the adversary) drives us away from each other… He exaggerates the need for having space, getting out, and being left alone. Some people believe him – and then they wonder why they feel left alone.” (Bruce C. Hafen’s “Covenant Marriage”)	Jung was the father of the ideas of "introversion" and "extroversion" as well as the different types of people as seen in the Meyer's-Brigg's Personality test. However, he never intended for people to believe they were only one or the other of any of those personality types. He believed very strongly in the idea of dialectic thought. He believed that we are all of us made of the possibilities of all extremes and once we recognize the possibility of extremes in us then we are better off. You consciously show parts of yourself but have the capacity for each side of it. Though you may believe you are introverted, you are actually both introverted as well as extroverted depending on the situation and the people who surround you. You are sensible or intuitive depending on the situation. We are a combination of opposites.
	Jung was also the father of "teleology" - or the idea that we act towards some purpose. "To truly understand a person, one must understand his or her goals and aspirations for future attainment on a personal level."
	BHANTE GUNARATANA ("Mindfulness in Plain English")
President Thomas S. Monson (as quoted in Elder Hales’ “Christian Courage”): “Let us learn respect for others. … None of us lives alone – in our city, our nation, or our world.”	"We should all share our loving friendliness with every person everywhere. No one nation can stand alone without the help and support of other nations, nor can any one person exist in isolation. To survive, we need other living beings, being who are bound to be different from us." (pg 192)
	GORDON ALLPORT
The following of every worthy instinct, the responding to every righteous urge, the consummating of every exalting human relationship are provided for and approved in the doctrines of the gospel of Jesus Christ and protected by commandments revealed to His church. (Elder Boyd K. Packer, “For Time and All Eternity,” Ensign, November 1993)	Intrinsic religion: "a man's religion is the bid he makes to bind himself to creation and to the Creator. It is his ultimate attempt to enlarge and to complete his own personality by finding the supreme context in which he rightly belongs." It includes the ideas that: man important experiences transcend one's own experience, explain mysteries (choices both free and determined, why the innocent suffer, good and evil),etc.
	CARL ROGERS
	"For marriage to work it must be egalitarian, enriching, and satisfying for both partners. Marriage should be a dynamic process within which both partners continually grow."
	ROLLO REESE MAY
the scriptures teach that we are responsible to be compassionate and charitable (loving) toward all men (see 1 Thessalonians 3:12; 1 John 3:17; D&C 121:45)	Freedom and Responsibility as paired principles. "Because we have the freedom to become whatever type of person we choose, we must assume full responsibility for what we become. No other person, circumstance, or fate can be praised or blamed for the nature of our existence; we alone are responsible. Freedom and responsibility are inseparable."
	"Without an adequate system of values, people tend to be outer directed. That is, people with inadequate values depend on things outside of themselves to indicate their significance."
“Your love, like a flower, must be nourished. There will come a great love and interdependence between you, for your love is a divine one. It is deep, inclusive, comprehensive. It is not like that association of the world which is misnamed love, but which is mostly physical attraction. When marriage is based on this only, the parties soon tire of each other. There is a break and a divorce, and a new, fresher physical attraction comes with another marriage which in turn may last only until it, too, becomes stale. The love of which the Lord speaks is not only physical attraction, but spiritual attraction as well. It is faith and confidence in, and understanding of, one another. It is a total partnership. It is companionship with common ideals and standards. It is unselfishness toward and sacrifice for one another. It is cleanliness of thought and action and faith in God and his program. It is parenthood in mortality ever looking toward godhood and creationship, and parenthood of spirits. It is vast, all-inclusive, and limitless. This kind of love never tires or wanes. It lives on through sickness and sorrow, through prosperity and privation, through accomplishment and disappointment, through time and eternity” (President Spencer W. Kimball. Faith Precedes the Miracle, 130–31).	"May believed that in modern times many have had an unfortunate tendency to equate love with sex. Authentic love must involve a blending of sex;…the seeking of creative union with another human, the sharing and combing of two selves;…a simple liking of one's partner...; and the unselfish concern for one's partner, the aspect of love that is unconditional."
President Thomas S. Monson (as quoted in Elder Hales’ “Christian Courage”): “Let us learn respect for others. … None of us lives alone – in our city, our nation, or our world.” “The adversary has long cultivated this overemphasis on personal autonomy, and now he feverishly exploits it. Our deepest God-given instinct is to run to the arms of those who need us and sustain us. But he (the adversary) drives us away from each other… He exaggerates the need for having space, getting out, and being left alone. Some people believe him – and then they wonder why they feel left alone.” (Bruce C. Hafen’s “Covenant Marriage”)	"Many of the current problems in the United States stem from the myth of the rugged individualist attempting to live in isolation from other people. … True happiness can result only from positive interpersonal relationships… and caring for our fellow humans - all of them."

1.       Reference of text:

Hergenhahn, B. R., & Olson, M. H. (2007) An Introducation to Theories of Personality (7^th ed.) New Jersey: Pearson.